You made all the arrangements, and she didn’t call back. This hurts, and most Nigerian guys have experienced it at least once.
First dates aren’t only date nights. They’re quiet interviews, and she decides if you are worth her time. Here’s the good news, however: you can pass this interview. All you need are the right moves, and this article has you covered!
Stop thinking and begin creating plans and strategies
Most guys lose themselves before the date comes. They do everything on the spur of the moment and rely on charm to get them through. It never does. It’s a lot about planning, so start by selecting the venue. Keep her away from noisy, crowded areas where she may not hear herself think. The quiet and clean restaurant is fine, as is the nice rooftop. The setting creates the ambience without even uttering a single word. Pray be careful, though, as she’s making impressions already.
Look Good Without Trying Too Hard
What you look like says more than what you have to say. She will observe your body odor, attire and attitude. Designer clothes aren’t essential to looking put-together. Clean and properly fitted clothes and a fresh fragrance will work. Do not apply too much cologne; spray will suffice. Iron outfits ahead of time to avoid a rush. If you look good, she will feel good.
Don't MIss This Gist
Arrive Before She Does
Rarely is punctuality not given its due credit, and Nigerian women certainly do not miss it. If you arrive before her, you treat her with respect and value her time. It also provides you with time to relax and make yourself feel better. The first to arrive sets the tone for the atmosphere. You’ll be able to select seats and do things in advance before she arrives. That little thing alone makes you stand out among all other boys she’s ever dated.
Put the Phone Down
The worst thing that can happen on a first date is a man who is distracted. She will feel unimportant if you’re always checking your phone. Once she feels she isn’t needed, the date has slipped by in her head. Set your cell phone to silent mode and keep it in your pockets. Do not split your attention among several people; there’s no need for that. Give her your full attention instead. A thousand words can be said in just a glance. If she notices you’re paying attention, she is going to open up more.
Ask Questions and really listen
There are quite a few guys out there that talk about themselves throughout the date. That’s the quickest route to bore a girl on a first date. Rather, pose sincere questions and then listen to her answers. Don’t simply stand in line to talk. Women have the capacity to discern between a man who listens and one who performs. Ask her about her work, her passions or something fun that has just happened to her. Once you have listened to her, create the dialogue based on what she shares; she will feel seen.
Make Her Laugh
A fine jest outwears the price of all gold. You’ve got the key to success if you can make her smile! Need not be a comedian, but light humor ensures easy, fun energy. Refer to something she has just mentioned and add a humorous spin on it. Don’t make any crude jokes or insensitivity. The objective is to get her up and around, not making her feel uncomfortable. You have to be at ease with her when she’s laughing, and that will happen naturally.
Be Honest, Not Impressive
There are a lot of Nigerian males that make the false step of performing on first dates. They inflate their earnings, networking and lifestyle. However, she is wiser than you believe, and she will feel the insincerity. Be honest in describing yourself and your goals. A faith in what you have is much more alluring than a borrowed image. Women are attracted to men who are secure, NOT to men who are pretending. Honesty on the initial date sets the tone for a real relationship.
Communicate with the bill graciously
This one is easy to do: Pay the bill without the theatrics! Do not split it, don’t wait to do it, and do not complain about the prices. A man who pays easily shows his responsibility and intention. She might say that she will help, and you can kindly refuse with a smile on your face. Your approach to funds on a first date reveals a lot regarding you. Make it easy, make it confident, and move on as if nothing happened.
Don't MIss This Gist
End the date on a high note to conclude the date
Never drag the date until all the energy is gone. Get out while something is still exciting to her and she wants more. Walk her to her vehicle and/or ensure she arrives home safely. Then send a short message afterwards telling her you had a great time. It is simple, warm and sincere, as there is no need for long paragraphs. The last impression sticks with her in mind even after the date. That’s where you want to be: on her mind.
